How Your Home is Your Sandcastle When Healing any Betrayal: Ten Tips for Exercising Care

Any time I am helping a couple rebuild after a betrayal, I’m reminded of how alike couples are in the healing process, with predictable hiccups along the way. Here’s a typical example: “Why can’t you just forgive me and move on?!” The husband sitting in front of me gesticulating with his hands and shouting his […]

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Typical Signs of Infidelity

“Here’s the thing,” I was explaining to one of the spouses that had recently come in for marriage therapy, “Your actions in here are very much like someone who is having an extramarital affair; I’m not just talking about physical or sexual contact—emotional affairs where you actually never see the person can be just as […]

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Why Friending Your Ex on Facebook May be More Hazardous to Your Marriage Than You Think

*While this article is focused on Facebook use, because it’s such a popular medium for online connection, this really applies to any connection, technology-assisted or otherwise. About a decade ago, when Facebook was still new and Apple was just rolling out its first iphone, I was among the group of people who thought it was […]

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Marital Betrayal: Forgiveness 101

Who is this person I thought I knew and what else are they lying about? This is one of the most common questions a partner has after finding out they have been betrayed by someone in a committed relationship.  It is a disorienting experience that is regularly described as “having the rug pulled out from […]

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7 Reasons why the Smartphone can be Relationship Kryptonite and the one Sure way to Protect Yourself

Buckle up for a serious topic: “We were texting back and forth about a project we were working on, because we were on the same church committee.  Gradually, the texts became a little more familiar.  Then, I found myself looking forward to the texts, and over time we started sharing more, and…I guess you could […]

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