Safety First in Marriage: Why it’s Necessary for Building Trust and Intimacy

If anyone asks my husband what I do for a living, he will say, “She makes people cry.” While that’s an over-simplified misconception which he declares for shock value, there is a minuscule grain of truth in his response. That’s because I am generally trying to help couples have new emotional experiences with each other […]

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Holy Relationships, Batman! Eleven Relationship Truths We Can Learn from The Lego Batman Movie

I have been waiting for almost a year for the Lego Batman movie to come out.  Last summer, when the trailers were available, I was using one of them in presentations to illustrate how males are so frequently socialized out of feeling and expressing any vulnerable emotions.  You can see what I mean in the […]

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Healing a Broken Heart

Sometimes I listen to the British band, Bastille, because their sound appeals to my Anglophilic tendencies and is reminiscent of some of my favorite 80’s alternative bands.  A recent song that caught my attention is Good Grief.  The lyrics describe the phenomenon of grief as a terrifying event (“watching through my fingers”–like at a horror […]

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Everything is Awesome—When your Spouse Thinks You’re “The Special”

**Long and gushy—you’ve been warned. On a recent family vacation, one of my children started watching the Lego movie loud enough that all of us were enjoying the snappy dialogue and “Everything is Awesome,” earworm. When Emmett was potentially identified as “The Special,” my mind wandered to how often that word comes up in therapy.  In […]

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