When Jack Sprat and His Wife Go to Couples Therapy: Body Weight as a Problem in Marriage

One day, pregnant with my second child, I went shopping for maternity clothes. I was feeling nauseous and suddenly experienced the familiar lightheaded dizzy feeling which accompanied all my pregnancies.  Afraid that I would pass out, I dropped down on the floor in the aisle of clothes, obscured from view.  A married couple walked up […]

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How Did We Get Here in our Marriage? When Past Pain Comes Alive in the Present and How to Fix it

Doug and Janice* were in an argument about the laundry.  Doug was looking for a pair of pants he had hoped had been washed when his wife threw in a load while he was at work.  His disappointment was perceived by his wife as criticism, and she thought of all the times her housework wasn’t […]

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The Slow Marital Death of Indecision: When Your Partner is Ambivalent about Staying Married

My job would be much easier as a marriage therapist if every couple came in with a unified set of desires for their marital futures.  Unfortunately, many couples come in with mixed agendas.  Commonly, one partner is entirely committed to saving the marriage, while one partner is ambivalent. Ambivalent partners can be absolutely crazy-making for […]

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