Safety First in Marriage: Why it’s Necessary for Building Trust and Intimacy

If anyone asks my husband what I do for a living, he will say, “She makes people cry.” While that’s an over-simplified misconception which he declares for shock value, there is a minuscule grain of truth in his response. That’s because I am generally trying to help couples have new emotional experiences with each other […]

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When Jack Sprat and His Wife Go to Couples Therapy: Body Weight as a Problem in Marriage

One day, pregnant with my second child, I went shopping for maternity clothes. I was feeling nauseous and suddenly experienced the familiar lightheaded dizzy feeling which accompanied all my pregnancies.  Afraid that I would pass out, I dropped down on the floor in the aisle of clothes, obscured from view.  A married couple walked up […]

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How Did We Get Here in our Marriage? When Past Pain Comes Alive in the Present and How to Fix it

Doug and Janice* were in an argument about the laundry.  Doug was looking for a pair of pants he had hoped had been washed when his wife threw in a load while he was at work.  His disappointment was perceived by his wife as criticism, and she thought of all the times her housework wasn’t […]

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