What Research is Telling us About how Pornography is Impacting Long-Term Romantic Relationships

A few years ago, I was sitting in front of my class of graduate students in a therapy training program when one of the students was describing some difficulty he was having with a case diagnostically coded in the DSM-5 (basically the diagnostic bible for mental health), but with a relatively rare prevalence. It made […]

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Safety First in Marriage: Why it’s Necessary for Building Trust and Intimacy

If anyone asks my husband what I do for a living, he will say, “She makes people cry.” While that’s an over-simplified misconception which he declares for shock value, there is a minuscule grain of truth in his response. That’s because I am generally trying to help couples have new emotional experiences with each other […]

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Holy Relationships, Batman! Eleven Relationship Truths We Can Learn from The Lego Batman Movie

I have been waiting for almost a year for the Lego Batman movie to come out.  Last summer, when the trailers were available, I was using one of them in presentations to illustrate how males are so frequently socialized out of feeling and expressing any vulnerable emotions.  You can see what I mean in the […]

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Mistress, Thy Name is Smartphone

Here’s a scenario I have seen play out in therapy with several iterations: I was carefully listening to a client in a marital  session when her partner suddenly picked up his phone.  My eyes widened at him as if to communicate, “Great—that just set you back at least an entire therapy session—that’s going to cost […]

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