Mistress, Thy Name is Smartphone

Here’s a scenario I have seen play out in therapy with several iterations: I was carefully listening to a client in a marital  session when her partner suddenly picked up his phone.  My eyes widened at him as if to communicate, “Great—that just set you back at least an entire therapy session—that’s going to cost […]

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Giving a Gift to Shift Marital Drift

Marital drift is a common concept among marriage therapists.  When couples aren’t proactive about securing their marriages, the stressors of life fragment the relationship and distance creeps in.  Unfortunately, the distance places the marriage at risk for intrusive elements like extramarital affairs, and many couples are caught off guard because they have been too busy to […]

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In Sickness and in Health: Finding a Balance when Illness Strikes

**I got my husband’s permission to share about his particular illness. There are many ways illness can affect a marriage.  Some couples deal with lifelong conditions such as diabetes.  Some are faced with a reality of chronic and often degenerative disease.  Many are surprised with acute catastrophic illness.  In just about every case, both partners […]

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Anniversary or Anni-worse-ary: Sometimes you have to Agree to Disagree

Recently, my husband and I celebrated our 28th wedding anniversary.  I’m customarily geeky and sentimental enough to try to find gifts that match pre-determined themes for the year (i.e. 25th—silver anniversary, 50th—gold, etc.).  Apparently the orchid is the traditional gift for a 28th anniversary.  I was trying to figure out how to incorporate that theme […]

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