Involuntary Celibacy in Marriage

Most people get married with the expectation that they will have a sexual relationship.  Yet, it can become one of the most challenging aspects of a long-term marriage.  About half of all Americans report having experienced some type of sexual dysfunction.  Negotiating an ongoing sexual relationship is rather complex.  It includes questions about who initiates […]

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Mistress, Thy Name is Smartphone

Here’s a scenario I have seen play out in therapy with several iterations: I was carefully listening to a client in a marital  session when her partner suddenly picked up his phone.  My eyes widened at him as if to communicate, “Great—that just set you back at least an entire therapy session—that’s going to cost […]

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Everything is Awesome—When your Spouse Thinks You’re “The Special”

**Long and gushy—you’ve been warned. On a recent family vacation, one of my children started watching the Lego movie loud enough that all of us were enjoying the snappy dialogue and “Everything is Awesome,” earworm. When Emmett was potentially identified as “The Special,” my mind wandered to how often that word comes up in therapy.  In […]

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The Number One Question to Ask to Restore Harmony in Marriage and Make Beautiful Music Together

I was in the middle of a “discussion,” with my husband the other day in which I could feel myself getting more frustrated that he wasn’t understanding my viewpoint.  I found myself doing something I often observe couples do, which was saying the same thing louder using different words, in an effort to be heard.  […]

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