March Madness is an annual holiday at my house. My son sent out a family text reminder yesterday to everyone to set up their brackets. My husband has trained all 7 of his children to care about basketball (or die). It has been a source of fun and frustration in my home for years. When my […]Read More March Madness and my Mom’s Magnanimous Matrimonial Model
I told my son I was writing a blog post about intimate partner violence, and he informed me that he had just developed an anti-domestic violence campaign ad as part of his advertising portfolio which can be viewed here. The above photo is part of it, illustrating that things can look perfect on the outside but […]Read More Any Abuse in Marriage is Unacceptable. The End.
I am probably going to ruffle some feathers with this post, and I may not even sound very compassionate, but I have had a somewhat upsetting month from a therapy standpoint. That’s saying a lot, considering the emotional challenges I face with people on a daily basis. I feel a responsibility to address this topic. Infidelity […]Read More Before Starting or Continuing your Extramarital Affair, Do This First
A fair amount of my therapy practice is with couples who started their marriages with the same religious orientation and are disrupted when one spouse experiences a considerable shift in religious belief. This faith transition is a major event in a marital relationship, requiring many adjustments to the family system. In my observation, it is […]Read More Navigating the Transition to a Mixed Faith Marriage
One of my favorite tv shows while I was growing up was The Brady Bunch. Mike and Carol Brady managed each contrived family challenge with ease and contentment. That’s why the popular sitcom is definitely a better example of fiction than of blended families. Some of the most challenging cases I have seen in therapy are […]Read More Hope for Blended Families: When Your Brady Bunch is a Weighty Bunch
My husband can never just gently get into bed. At any given time, he outweighs me by 80-100 pounds, and it always feels to me like he is flopping onto the bed with as much force as possible, which has the effect of both startling me and bouncing me out of my comfort zone. He […]Read More Couple Conflict After the Laughter
I sent my husband a text the other day by speaking into the phone as usual, and right before I sent it, I glanced at it to make sure it was comprehensible. What I saw actually took me by surprise. I was sending him a message saying, “I got you the best presents for Christmas,” […]Read More Presents or Presence this Holiday Season?
As a mother of five sons, I am troubled by the trend to disparage fathers’ roles in the family and to treat men as dispensable. Some of the most important lessons that were modeled for me came from my father. I can say the same about my mother, but despite the fact that my father was […]Read More Lessons my Father Taught Me (That I Wish I had Learned Better)
This is the anniversary of my dad passing away. I can’t overstate what a wonderful dad I think I had. He was full of integrity, I never heard him use a four-letter word, he had a lot of interest in preparing me for the future and communicated with me often about it, and he told […]Read More Tribute to my Dad
I struggled in writing this, hoping to get the tone just right. My intention is to provide hope and support to someone. I sincerely hope that comes across. If it helps one couple, it will have been worth my time writing it. As a marriage therapist, I often see many similarities across cases, and I […]Read More Mending Broken Hearts: Marital All-Stars