Just a Spoonful of Sugar Helps the Divorce Rate go Down

Originally posted on Uniting Couples to Strengthen Families:
I walked out to the waiting room the other night to witness a somewhat rare event in my practice: a couple holding hands!  I immediately felt just a little…..happier?  More hopeful?  Less burdened?  I’m not quite sure, but the gesture sent a non-verbal message that things were…

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Kissing Like you Mean it: The Benefits of Lighting Fireworks in your Marriage

Originally posted on Uniting Couples to Strengthen Families:
As I was explaining to my husband that I was trying to write a blog post about kissing in marriage, he threw his arms open and offered enthusiastically, “And you want to practice?”  “No,” I answered, “But I admire your optimism and thanks for giving me my…

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Intimacy: The Safe Adventure

My recent song fix lately* is John Legend’s All of Me.  One of my sons had me buy him the piano music so he could learn to play it after he heard it at Legend’s local concert appearance, and I have found myself humming it several times throughout the day.  The lyrics of the emotionally evocative ballad capture […]

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Tribute to my Dad

This is the anniversary of my dad passing away.  I can’t overstate what a wonderful dad I think I had.  He was full of integrity, I never heard him use a four-letter word, he had a lot of interest in preparing me for the future and communicated with me often about it, and he told […]

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When Love Gets Messy, Keep it Simple

Before I became a couples therapist, I never realized how many people dread Valentine’s Day.  It seems like every year for the few weeks preceding the Lover’s holiday, I hear varying complaints from many of my clients.  They all basically express the sentiment that when things aren’t going well in a romantic attachment relationship, Valentine’s […]

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