One evening, I stumbled home from work at 10:30 p.m., exhausted and fighting a pounding headache. I staggered into my bedroom, sped through a bedtime routine and melted into bed. A few minutes later, my husband walked into my room and demanded, “Hey, when did you come home? Why didn’t you tell me you were home?” I […]Read More Why that First Five Minutes at Home can be so Important in your Marriage
Sometimes I listen to the British band, Bastille, because their sound appeals to my Anglophilic tendencies and is reminiscent of some of my favorite 80’s alternative bands. A recent song that caught my attention is Good Grief. The lyrics describe the phenomenon of grief as a terrifying event (“watching through my fingers”–like at a horror […]Read More Healing a Broken Heart
**Long and gushy—you’ve been warned. On a recent family vacation, one of my children started watching the Lego movie loud enough that all of us were enjoying the snappy dialogue and “Everything is Awesome,” earworm. When Emmett was potentially identified as “The Special,” my mind wandered to how often that word comes up in therapy. In […]Read More Everything is Awesome—When your Spouse Thinks You’re “The Special”
One of my favorite tv shows while I was growing up was The Brady Bunch. Mike and Carol Brady managed each contrived family challenge with ease and contentment. That’s why the popular sitcom is definitely a better example of fiction than of blended families. Some of the most challenging cases I have seen in therapy are […]Read More Hope for Blended Families: When Your Brady Bunch is a Weighty Bunch
As I was explaining to my husband that I was trying to write a blog post about kissing in marriage, he threw his arms open and offered enthusiastically, “And you want to practice?” “No,” I answered, “But I admire your optimism and thanks for giving me my opening sentence.” For most couples, kissing is a […]Read More Kissing Like you Mean it: The Benefits of Lighting Fireworks in your Marriage
When my dad passed away a few years ago, one of the saddest things about it for me as the youngest of six children was that my younger children wouldn’t experience his amazing personality. I was already sad that my mom was gone and my kids wouldn’t be on the receiving end of her endless […]Read More Grandparenting Power
This month is the third year anniversary of my father dying. I miss him and my mom. A lot. My parents created a lot of safety in predictable rituals. This is a story I wrote a year ago that was published in an edition of http://seeingtheeveryday.com/ , a publication which I adore, which centers around prosaic […]Read More Arrivals: Is Everybody Happy?