One of my favorite tv shows while I was growing up was The Brady Bunch. Mike and Carol Brady managed each contrived family challenge with ease and contentment. That’s why the popular sitcom is definitely a better example of fiction than of blended families. Some of the most challenging cases I have seen in therapy are […]Read More Hope for Blended Families: When Your Brady Bunch is a Weighty Bunch
I sent my husband a text the other day by speaking into the phone as usual, and right before I sent it, I glanced at it to make sure it was comprehensible. What I saw actually took me by surprise. I was sending him a message saying, “I got you the best presents for Christmas,” […]Read More Presents or Presence this Holiday Season?
As a mother of five sons, I am troubled by the trend to disparage fathers’ roles in the family and to treat men as dispensable. Some of the most important lessons that were modeled for me came from my father. I can say the same about my mother, but despite the fact that my father was […]Read More Lessons my Father Taught Me (That I Wish I had Learned Better)
When my dad passed away a few years ago, one of the saddest things about it for me as the youngest of six children was that my younger children wouldn’t experience his amazing personality. I was already sad that my mom was gone and my kids wouldn’t be on the receiving end of her endless […]Read More Grandparenting Power
My husband taught me a simple, yet powerful tool to build safety and security in marriage as well as in the entire family. It’s kind of humbling, considering the fact that I’m the one with two advanced university degrees in marriage and family therapy. Here’s the story behind it: Several years ago, I was tidying […]Read More How to be a Marital Superhero for your Children to Infinity and Beyond in One Easy Step
Here is an actual text exchange that occurred between my teenage daughter and me the other night. I’d spent the entire evening seeing clients and was coming home exhausted. As soon as I walked in the door, my phone buzzed. Here’s how the text conversation proceeded: Her: Can I get a gym pass please? Me: […]Read More This is Your Brain on Parenting
I recently had the opportunity to read Richard and Linda Eyre’s new book promoting the family as the most basic and powerful building block of society. They define family as the unit proximal to each individual which performs the following roles: procreation, modeling commitment and cooperation, nurturing, forming identify, instilling values, offering love and fulfillment, and […]Read More Book Review on The Turning: Why the State of the Family Matters and What the World Can do About it by Richard and Linda Eyre
This month is the third year anniversary of my father dying. I miss him and my mom. A lot. My parents created a lot of safety in predictable rituals. This is a story I wrote a year ago that was published in an edition of http://seeingtheeveryday.com/ , a publication which I adore, which centers around prosaic […]Read More Arrivals: Is Everybody Happy?
My husband and I recently decided to remodel our bathroom. For many women, the expectation of choosing new colors and materials may seem energizing, but for me, it’s draining. Ask me to rappel down a waterfall, and I will strap on a harness and follow behind; ask me to pick out bathroom tile and I […]Read More Home Sweet Home…A World Away
A few years ago, I was listening to an interview between a talk show host and Ann Romney, wife of presidential candidate, Mitt Romney. My ears perked up when the host began questioning her about raising five sons, since 5/7 of my children are male. My first four were boys, meaning that I developmentally progressed from living in […]Read More What Ann Romney and I Have in Common: Toilet Humor from the Skaddy Shack